so my date was a complete disaster
what the fuck was my reaction when i got home yesterday after my “date”.
let me recap. ive been talking to this girl on tinder for a few weeks, then one day she couldnt see my messages anymore and she went into panic and asked me if i couldnt add her on facebook messenger. great i thought, then as time went on, i had asked her out a few times to no avail because she was too busy with work and her night activities. i said to her as the gentleman i am, no problem! ill wait because i think youre worth it. we even talked on phone, she sent me very early good morning and good night messages, we texted each other throughout the day EVERYDAY for over a month. it was fun and exciting. we even texted on phone the day before our date/meet up.
yesterday i met her for the very first time, i was so happy as i had been looking forward to it, she was very cute and friendly and i thought to myself after i gave her a hug, this is going to be a great day for both of us. guess what? after 30 mins she takes her phone out and i think to myself “is she bored?” she does this 3 times at least through-out the entire walk around the lake which took 45-50 mins total.
i made our date all about her, i could tell she didnt know what to ask me so i stepped in, asked everything about her, made it all about her. she talked and talked, laughed even. then as our walk comes to a close, i ask her if she still wants to eat lunch with me, since she was the one who suggested it. she stalled for a moment and said “umm, ill just wait till i get back home and i think we should just be friends, theres no chemistry. oh and btw, we can still chat on messenger and you can still send me jokes. its always nice to have someone to talk to” WTF???
i remained calm, took it pretty nice even though it felt like a punch in my face. i even walked her back to her car and hugged her farewell. later that day, after my feelings were crushed and extremely upset i had to get some kind of closure as to why she just ended the date halfway and gave up.
her bullshit explanation? “lack of chemistry” what the fuck. we are 30 mins into our date and comes to the conclusion theres a lack of chemistry and theres no reason to pursue this any further? this isnt like in a movie where everything happens magically. chemistry is also about wanting to make it work. it doesnt just “happen”. i mean sure, some people click, others dont but we are barely 30mins into our date a lack of chemistry is part of it. finding it hard to ask me things or awkward silence? also part of a first date. what the fuck was she expecting?
what, you think chemistry happens within the second we meet and greet? she didnt even give me a fucking chance. had she fully completed our date and gave me a chance, i wouldnt have been as upset as i was yesterday. my feelings are still crushed tbh.
she also contradicts herself alot as she went further on to explain the whole ordeal. “I agree, it was over too fast, i also really enjoyed texting you for over a month, but it was difficult talking to you, and the chemistry was hard to feel” she told me... yes so all this build up, and just because it feels hard and theres no immidiate chemistry and you give up?
what the fuck is going on?
why go through so much only to give up? the whole point of a date is to find a connection. you dont find a connection within an hour of walking, sometimes maybe but not always. give it a chance and dont just give up. thats why theres a 2nd and even a third date.
if i really liked a girl and i also really liked her personality and i thought shes absolutely gorgeous but felt like there was no immidiate chemistry, would i give up? fuck no. i would give her a chance. she did the exact opposite.
i did so much for her and recieved so little in return. oh and by the way, my feet are completely fucked up with blisters and bleeding because i wore my dapper boots just for her and i had been walking around in them for 2 hours yesterday just for her and this is what i get?
i did nothing wrong. i did everything right. she gave up halfway and never gave me a proper chance to get to know me.
i am absolutely devastated and sad.
Posted by UlvenFenrir
on 31 May 19 at 11:19
| Last edited on 31 May 19 at 11:38